How to Choose a Headstone: A Step-by-Step Guide for Families
To choose a headstone, start by confirming your cemetery's regulations, then decide on the type (flat marker or upright monument), the material (granite or bronze), the size, and the personalization (names, dates, engraving, and design). Order from a maker who can produce it to your cemetery's specifications. It can feel overwhelming, but breaking it into a few clear steps makes it manageable. Everlife Memorials has crafted custom headstones and grave markers since 2000 and helps families through each choice.
Step 1: Check Your Cemetery's Requirements First
This is the most important first step. Most cemeteries have specific rules about:
Type some allow only flat/flush markers; others permit upright monuments
Size and thickness
Material (granite, bronze, or both)
Foundation and installation requirements
Ask your cemetery for their written regulations before you choose anything. Everlife helps you confirm these so your marker will be approved and installed without issues.
Step 2: Choose the Type of Marker
Flat (flush) markers sit level with the ground, often required in "lawn" cemeteries and typically more affordable.
Bevel and slant markers rise slightly for better visibility.
Upright monuments (headstones) stand tall and offer the most space for personalization, where cemeteries allow them.
Companion markers memorialize two people, often spouses, on one stone.
Step 3: Choose the Material
Granite - the most popular choice: extremely durable, weather-resistant, and available in many colors. Ideal for engraving.
Bronze - a classic, elegant option, usually mounted on a granite base; common in cemeteries that require flush markers.
Both last generations. Your choice often comes down to cemetery rules and personal preference.
Step 4: Decide on Size and Shape
Size is guided by your cemetery's rules and the plot (single or companion). Within those limits, shape and style are personal, from simple and classic to distinctive custom shapes.
Step 5: Personalize It
This is where the memorial becomes truly theirs. Consider:
Names and dates
An epitaph - a short phrase, verse, or sentiment
Engraved designs - religious symbols, flowers, portraits, or images meaningful to your loved one
Lettering style and finish
Take your time here; there's no wrong choice, only what feels right for your family.
Step 6: Order and Plan for Timing
Headstones are made to order, so they take time to craft, engrave, and install, and cemetery approval adds steps. Order when you're ready, and ask your maker for a realistic timeline. Everlife provides accurate timeframes and manages the details, including cemetery compliance.
A Gentle Note on Budget
Headstones range widely in price by material, size, and personalization. A meaningful memorial doesn't have to be the most expensive one, Everlife has offered affordable, high-quality markers since 2000, with options for a range of budgets.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I choose a headstone?
Start by confirming your cemetery's regulations, then choose the marker type (flat or upright), material (granite or bronze), size, and personalization (names, dates, engraving). Order from a maker who can produce it to your cemetery's specifications.
What is the best material for a headstone?
Granite is the most popular for its durability, weather resistance, and range of colors; bronze is a classic option often used for flush markers. Both last for generations, the right choice often depends on your cemetery's rules and personal preference.
Do I need to check with the cemetery before buying a headstone?
Yes, this is the essential first step. Cemeteries often restrict marker type, size, and material. Confirm the written regulations first. Everlife helps families verify these before production.
How long does it take to get a headstone?
Because headstones are made to order and require engraving, plus cemetery approval and installation, they take time. Ask your maker for a specific timeline; Everlife provides accurate timeframes for each order.
How much does a headstone cost?
Prices vary widely by type, material, size, and personalization. Everlife offers quality markers across a range of budgets, contact us with your details for pricing.
What is the difference between a headstone and a grave marker?
"Grave marker" is a general term for any memorial marker; a flat marker sits flush with the ground, while a "headstone" or "monument" usually refers to an upright stone. Which you can use depends on your cemetery's rules.